Affair Repair and Rebuilding Trust


Many people arrive in my office just post the discovery or disclosure of an affair. There is almost nothing as devastating. But I would not do this kind of work with couples if there weren't every reason to hope, not just of restoring trust, but of maybe even having a better relationship than ever before.


Not Just Friends
by: Shirley Glass

Not Just Friends, by Shirley Glass, is my "bible" for restoring trust after infidelity and my affair-repair manual. My practice would not be the same without it.  I also recommend it often to newlyweds to ensure they know how to affair-proof their relationship and to couples who are at risk of an affair.

The Science of Trust: Emotional Attunement for Couples
by: Dr. John Gottman

Dr. John Gottman has international acclaim across the world for his lengthy research on couples.  A former mathematician, Gottman has the ability to identify precisely the indicators of wellbeing and longevity in relationships. In this book, he explains the concept of emotional attunement. Great for readers who like to understand the research behind attachment.

What Makes Love Last? How to Build Trust and Avoid Betrayal
by: Dr. John Gottman

In this book, Dr. Gottman explores the processes like conversational patterns and even physiological data gathered from thousands and thousands of couples visiting his Seattle “Love Lab.” Based on solid research, this book provides advice on protecting and restoring trust.